My advice to my children



One of the many things I am proud of in my life thus far is my kids. (including my step kids and god kids). Children are amazing beings. Yes, they can be annoying and disobedient but it’s all a learning experience, right?

One thing kids have taught me is patience and how to exciting the world really is. For someone seeing it for the first time, it’s so amazing. We take those simplicities for granted.

One thing I really want to do is make the world a better place for the kids. And one thing I notice, with technology booming the way it is and is showing no sign of stopping, it’s getting a little difficult for the young generation to know how to do things the “old” way.

Let’s be honest. With all man-made things, they are destined to mess up or break or need repair one time or another, right?



Now, let’s say your dish washer clunks out. Do you know how to properly hand wash your dishes? As funny as it sounds, there are kids out there who don’t know how to do it.

Now, this is not a post about how to properly load a dishwasher or how to change a flat tire, though I have seen so many youngins (including myself) not know how to do something that could save you headache and money.

If I had to give any of my children or anyone’s kids in general advice before they step off into the real world it would be this:

Be kind to others. It’s hard enough making friends. It doesn’t get any easier once you’re an adult and have to with some of these people.sunset-hands-love-woman

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Network. Just knowing what your peers do for a living and keeping contact with them can be better than going to college itself! (Nah, you probably should still get your degree anyway since a lot of employers look for that!)pexels-photo-374592



Learn how to budget. There’s going to be a time where your parents aren’t going to always be there for you to pick up the slack. So, the adult thing to do is to stand on your own two feet. Which means, learn how to use your money accordingly. So, the whole “wants and needs” thing comes in handy. (Do you really need to go to a concert on a Tuesday night when you have a phone bill due on Friday?)

Priories! Goes hand and hand with budgeting. You’re going to find yourself hanging out with friends and thinking to yourself, “I can buy $20 worth of $4 shots because that’s a good deal” but not think about tomorrow when you need a sandwich at lunch between classes. No meal plan? Ooooh…maybe $4 shots wasn’t such a good idea after all.

Learn how to shop. Shopping isn’t just for girls! You’re going to need food and clothes and supplies. And don’t be a “brand snob”. Fruity sugar O’s is just as good as Fruit Loops and will save you a couple more cents that can go towards more food! Doesn’t sound like a lot but it adds up!pexels-photo-264636

Grow up. There’s nothing wrong with handling your own and having your own at 20. You’re legal. You can buy things and work for what you want. Why not take advantage of it? Because God forbid that if something happened to your family, who will really have your back? The world is cold and you’re only going to learn the hard way. Learn to stand on your own two feet while you don’t necessarily have to before you have no choice but to stand on your own two feet.pexels-photo-266023

Own up to your mistakes. We are human. And that means we make mistakes. A LOT of them. That doesn’t make you a bad person unless you are intentionally doing these things. If so, shame on you! So, if you make a mistake or hurt someone, just tell the truth. Be honest. Own up to it. It’s better than trying to come up with a lie that you’re going to have to remember later.woman-dropped-fail-failure

Go to college fresh! Meaning, I would cut ties with that high school boyfriend or girlfriend. As harsh as it sounds, trust me, you’ll thank me later. I learned the hard way. When you go to a new place like college for the first time, you’re in a new world full of people who have the same interest or things in common with you versus coming from high school with a lot of people who didn’t and were trying to figure out who they are themselves. You might find someone who is way more “perfect” than say current S.O.S. And long distant relationship sucks! Not saying it can’t be done. Just saying it’s very hard. Don’t do this to yourself. College is supposed to be the best years of your life. Make it count!

Take every opportunity you can and don’t let no one hold you back! (not even your parents!) I say this and I mean it. If you have an opportunity to travel the world for a year, DO IT. If you have the opportunity to meet some important people that will open doors for you, DO IT. Don’t worry about mom and dad. They will be there waiting. It’s their job to worry. And don’t let your lover hold you back either. Some of the opportunities you will get will only come once in a lifetime and not doing so because of someone else’s selfish reasons is not fair to you and just plain silly. Because to be quite honest, if the shoe was on the other foot, they will do the same and not think twice! So, do it!

Take help that is offered. People are more willing to help a struggling college student than a regular adult. Sad but true. I guess in their eyes, it’s a young adult who is trying to make their way through life and help themselves and not asking for handouts. If you’re an adult not in school, they will figure you should have already had it all figured out and you’re just being lazy. So, if you’re trying to get an intern somewhere, let it be known you’re a student and you’re trying. And work hard at what you do because someone is always watching!pexels-photo

Remember your family. Of course, no one has the perfect ideal family. But family is everything. They are who make you and will be there when all things fall down. Sometimes, you’re lucky to find a friend who is just like family and will be there for you no matter what. Hold them close and hold them tight. So, if your friends want to check out the new bar in town but your nana is having a birthday dinner at your parent’s house, I would suggest you show Nana a little love and catch up with your friends later. Because Nana lived her life and seen a lot and you never know when the last dinner with her will be. So any opportunity is a good opportunity. Plus, there’s always going to be a new hip bar opening up or some cool hang out spot or concert that will be happening. Choose wisely.

Last but not least, make time. You never truly realize how much time you have until you don’t really have much time left at all. What I mean is, being a parent, changed my life. I used to think I didn’t have enough time in a day to do anything while I was still young, in college, and kid-free. But when I had my kids, I realized I had more time than I thought and I took that for granted. All those days of sleeping in or surfing the web or going out with the girls. I could have used that to do better. But at that time, I felt I didn’t have much time. There was never enough time in a day. And now, there’s really never enough time (or money).pexels-photo-100733

That’s just my little advice that I have to offer from what I’ve learned and seen through out the years. In hopes of helping someone be a better person. I really hope my sons will take this advice and use it. Some regrets are a part of life but I would still much rather have as least as possible.

Until next time! Enjoy life!

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