Balancing two small children

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For some, kids aren’t such a scary thing. I mean, they are little humans who are constantly learning. What’s so scary about that? A lot. A whole lot. Especially if you’re like me. One minute, you’re single, living in your own (clean) space, eating your own food without anyone begging and drinking late and sleeping in. Then, BAM! You’re married, with two kids and a dog trying to figure out why can’t you get your child to eat something other than chicken nuggets or how many glasses of wine can you really drink and still manage to wake up at a decent hour the next day. *sigh*


I know it sounds like I’m complaining but I’m actually the happiest I’ve ever been in my whole life. I’m married to my best friend who is a truly amazing man and also nailed the husband thing down to a T. I’m lucky I found someone like that before I turned 30. (I’m 30 now. lol) I have two wonderful, smart, healthy baby boys that are so great and four step sons that make being a step parent not so scary at all anymore. How lucky am I? And now we have a dog which is super awesome. She loves my sons, even though the oldest seems to make her regret coming home with us. pexels-photo-familywithpet

So, with all that being said, why would the thought of balancing two kids seem so hard? If they are older, then nothing, really. But if they are, hmm let’s say 2 years old and 3 months old…then you’re kinda asking for it. And it’s not all bad but it’s different. It’s a challenge. You will be tired. But you’ll be so in love at the end of the day. I know I am.

With my first son, I didn’t know what to expect. Even reading books like “what to expect” and reading many blogs from other experienced mommies, I was still left thinking, “what have I’ve gotten myself into?”. Whereas I wasn’t really the most kid friendly (kids confused the crap out of me!) I definitely knew I wanted to be a mom one day. I wanted to experience the joy and pain of having your own. Understand the love between a mother and her child. Share something as intimate as a little you with someone you love.

The day I found out I was pregnant, I can’t say I was jumping for joy. I was in my prime, finally enjoying my 20s after getting out of a very bad relationship. I was having the time of my life with my (at the time) boyfriend. Then next thing you know, I’m sitting on a toilet seat texting my brother and crying my eyes out.

Not now! I can’t possibly be a mom now! I still have so much to do!

But it was true and the only choice I had was to grow up and learn to be a mom. The pregnancy journey was an interesting one, to say the least, but enjoyable. It was exciting. It was new. It happened so fast! But after my little guy was born, I was in love. He had my heart.

Fast forward 2 years later, I find out I’m pregnant again. I didn’t cry this time. But more of a “well, I hope I can handle this.” I’ve seen so many other women with young children around the same age and they make it look so effortless. They are all pros! How can I be like that?

I look back on my first son’s early months and I forgot all the small details that I’m now experiencing with my new little one. And I feel so guilty.

How could you forget when your son first laughed? or How many diapers you’ve gone through the first few months? I’m terrible.

Now, I’m finding myself reliving infant life while figuring out toddler life and it’s exhausting. I barely have time to do anything to my hair. (I now understand why so many moms cut their hair short.)pexels-photo-85599

I’m now figuring out as I go, how to balance two small children at the same time. I’ve noticed, if you keep the oldest busy with something and try not to be all over the infant (because they do get jealous), then it’s not as hard as you would think. Though, I do have those days where nothing goes right.

There’s going to be those moments of struggle when no one wants to go to bed and all you want to do is go to bed. There’s going to be days where it seems like there’s no way of making anyone happy. There’s a lot of emotional struggle through it all. Being a parent is definitely not for the weak!pexels-photo-103127

As time moves on, things do somehow, get easier. Soon, your kids will be independent and go to school and you’ll be asking yourself, “Where did the time go?” So for me, I try to enjoy every little thing. The hard stuff and the easy stuff. Because life is so short and your kids do grow fast.

Spit up in hair, sweats and all, I’m proud to be a mommy of two!

Until next time, enjoy those little moments.

The Complete Guide on what to pack in your diaper bag!

When I got the exciting (yet horrifying) news that I was expecting my first bundle of joy, I was bursting with so many different emotions that I thought I was going to have a nervous break down. I’m sure a lot of women go through the same.



This was the moment that I wasn’t quite ready for, for my life was about to change drastically in the course for 9 months! What have I’ve gotten myself into??

Stacking up on boo-koos amounts of books, blogs and other fun reading material from what to wear to what kind of food to eat to what color the nursery should be. (Phew!) I’ve learned the hard way even though I felt I was overly prepared. Truthfully, nothing will really prepare you other than experience. Because one person’s experience could be so much more different than yours. They could have the most perfect and well behaved child, where you get this wild child from Uranus. You could follow all the books and instruction manuals to life and life will still throw a curve ball that you didn’t quite plan for. Isn’t that lovely?

So, one of the things that worried me the most after little baby arrived was what on earth do you suppose to put in this huge diaper bag? Do you really need that much space? Does it have to be that big? Do you suppose to overpack? What if I don’t pack enough?


I had a friend tell me that when my child gets older, the load will lessen. And she was right.

Ok, so what do you suppose to put in those diaper bags??

Most importantly, DIAPERS!! I recommend 10-12 diapers. You just never know! And plenty of wipes. I say a full pack. You never know what will happen and you can use wipes for more than just wiping tushy!

(I’m a “honest mom”. I enjoy most of Honest products, so you’ll see them here and there.)

Burp rags will almost save your life especially if you have a little one with acid reflux.

2-3 outfits or bodysuits because boy they can mess up a change of clothes really quick!

3 blankets. If it’s cold outside, let’s say 4 or 5.

A good stain remover, travel size or in a travel container. Trust me, blow outs are so messy and especially with breastfed babies, the stains are darn near impossible to get out! Better get a head start if you’re not getting home any time soon.

Plastic trash bags or Disposable sacks. Yes, they aren’t the most eco-friendly but you need somewhere to put those soiled diapers and wipes.

First-Aid kit. Wal-Mart sells these little travel sized first aid kits that includes alcohol wipes, bandaids, first aid creme and gauze for less than a dollar and they do come in handy. You just never know!

An extra set of clothes for you. Even though the spit up dries up after a while and it’s not that bad (it smells, though), maybe you’re going to a special event and the baby just puked out half of his life on your new silk blouse. (why are you wearing silk with a newborn?) So, You’re gonna need back up! Always have a back up plan!


Medicines– Depending on how old your newborn is, I’m speaking based on the first few months (0-5 months) you probably want to bring diaper rash cream, gripe water, bug stray, sunblock, Tylenol, a plastic syringe, a thermometer and a few bibs.

2 pairs of socks and 2 hats.

2 bottles, (if you’re breastfeeding, I suggest a cooler to keep fresh pumped milk cool. Shelf life of breastmilk can be tricky.) I usually just breastfeed in public. Put a cloth over him or let my shirt cover most of my boob. I’m feeding my child, not trying to attract pervs!

Snacks for you! Thinking things like dried fruit, granola, water bottle.

A little book to read and a few small toys. Sometimes, you’re going to need to distract your baby. And especially when they are at the grabbing things stage, you’re going to need to keep them occupied!

I also may suggest a little book to keep medical records in. For example, a small address book you can write days and shot records or keep up with prescriptions.

I think I covered it all. Phew! That’s a lot! So, to answer those questions above. Yes, you need all that space. A big bag. Better safe than sorry. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been out of the house with the kids and the little one messed up his clothes within the first 5 mins of arriving. And me, foolishly leaving home without an extra outfit. (TJ Maxx to the rescue!) Getting a new outfit might not sound too bad unless you’re on a tight budget.



So, just prepare for all of life’s hiccups and learn to enjoy them. Those little moments go so quick. Those chubby cheeks and chunky legs won’t stay that way for long, and those cute coos & sweet giggles will turn into questions that you don’t know the answer to. Soon, they’ll be going to school and making friends and before you know it, they will be going off to college or whatever they choose to do. Then, when you see that smile on their face and feel that tight hug, you’ll know you’ve done a good job.

You rock.

Until next time. 🙂 Be sweet and enjoy the simple things, like packing your diaper bag!